During Taylor and I's marriage prep I vividly remember one conversation. The priest looked at us and said "do you both understand what unconditional love is?" And Taylor and I looked at each other, smiled and said "yeah!".
And the priest then said "explain it to me" and Taylor and I both responded saying something along the lines of "well you love each other unconditionally. You love each other no matter what."
Then the priest went on to ask us another question. "What do you do if one of you cheats?"
We both said pretty confidently that something such as that was unforgivable and that neither of us would stay.
Then he said, "okay. do you still love each other unconditionally?"
And as you can imagine, we were a little dumbfounded.
This conversation is one that still resonates with me and will probably continue to do so for a long time.
This idea of unconditional love is something that is so easy to believe in, yet it can be so difficult to act on.
To be completely honest, I went back and forth when deciding if I wanted marriage to be a topic on this blog. My heart kept telling me yes, but my mind kept telling me no.
It seems to me that marriage has simply stemmed so far from what it was meant to be. Today marriage is thrown around, abused, misunderstood and in my honest opinion, not appreciated, nor valued.
I haven't even been married a year so I can't tell you that I am going to be filled with amazing life changing advice. We don't even have real problems yet. We get mad, we yell at each other, we cry, we say things we don't mean, we have regrets.
We are far from perfect.
But. We value our marriage. We take the words "unconditional love" seriously. We practice forgiveness.
I am not perfect. Taylor is not perfect. We are not perfect.
But it is my life long goal to love my husband in the same way that God loves us. Unconditionally.
No matter how much we shut him out, disobey him, get mad at him, forget him, don't honor him and live without him, he never stops loving us as much as he did when he first created us.
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There is one quote that Taylor once put on a mug and gave to me as a gift.
"Treat her like you're still trying to win her, and that's how you'll never lose her."
It is easy to fall into a routine once your married. In our own ways Taylor and I have, not to say that one of is more to blame than the other. I wouldn't even say it's a problem, it is simply just how life gets. We get busy, work takes up time - for whatever reason, relationships tend to fall to the wayside.
I personally love dates. I love getting dressed up and making ordinary days feel like extraordinary days. I also love doing simple things, like writing little notes, taking fun pictures, playing board games, etc.
Those things are important. Dates are important. Notes are important. Whatever you do to make your spouse feel loved, appreciated and special is important.
Although that quote say's"Treat her like you're still trying to win her, and that's how you'll never lose her." It goes both ways. "Treat him like you're still trying to win him, and that's how you'll never lose him."
This is part of my purpose here. I really love my husband and I want to feel the same way about him in 60 years as I do right now, and as much as I did the day I met him.
I want to love my husband in the best way I can, and it is my desire to share our journey with you and inspire you to love your spouse in the best way that you can.
I wish that when people talk about marriage they wouldn't think "marriage is hard", I wish instead that they would think, "marriage is fun, great and amazing.", because let's be honest . . . you get to spend your life with your best friend and when you really think about it, how totally awesome is that?
- xo -
I'm Emilee. Twenty-something. Homebody. Believer in a simple + intentional life. Daughter of the King. Living in Austin with my hubs.
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