Does anybody else feel like they need another weekend just to recover from the current weekend??
I certainly do.
This weekend was so fun, but busy, busy, busy! We went country dancing (SO FUN!), we wandered around the cutest little town near us and then we took our Christmas pictures - plus a couple naps here & there, because that is a weekend must ;)
It was a successful weekend to say the least and although I wish it could still be the weekend, I am excited because today is #MARRIAGEMONDAY!
We’re on our fourth week of the course and still loving it - only two weeks to go!
This week’s lesson, and next week’s actually, are both focused on parenting. And since we don’t have kids yet we did our best to try and take the lesson to heart and really listen and learn from the lesson.
I actually really loved this lesson, because my biggest dream has always been to be a mom and I loved hearing from Chelsea especially about what she has learned over the years and how she has worked to become a great wife & mom for her family.
Chelsea talked a lot about learning and understanding your child’s heart and I loved that. She talked about how when your child is acting out, instead of immediately reacting, you should instead try and take a step back and think about why they are doing what they’re doing. What is driving their behavior? And once you are able to figure that out, than you can talk about the problem and really get to the heart of the problem, while also developing a deeper relationship with your child.
I loved that.
This lesson really hit home with me and really just strengthened my desire to be a mom and to do everything I can to be the best mom that I can be.
Now on the other hand, as much as I loved the lesson, Taylor struggled with it. He had a hard time relating to it because we don’t have kids. In his mind he kept thinking that we have no idea what we’re going to be like with our own kids and so while this advice is great, it is only so helpful right now.
So with that being said, we tried to alter the questions a little bit and sort of direct them back to us and not kids. So one of the questions was - how did the way you were raised affect how you raise your kids? We turned this into, how was the way you were raised affect who you are today – what things were good and bad about your upbringing? What are things that you would do differently from how your parents raised you, etc.
Once we did that we got into some good conversations. And speaking of conversations, this class has been so good for helping us communicate. It really makes you have the conversations that you don’t want to have, but that are so important to have. Both Taylor & I hate talking about serious things – it is hard, it’s not fun and it is sometimes difficult because we have both come from different upbringings. However, these conversations are so important.
I think in the end we both liked the lesson, because like most of the rest of the course, it made us talk about something that we probably wouldn’t have talked about. I think we now understand how important it is to talk about our family before we have kids and to really set a foundation for our family to build on.
This lesson gave us the opportunity to start building our foundation and talking about how we want to raise our kids and what we want our family to be. Taylor and I, like most couples, come from different backgrounds and different upbringings, which then can create conflict – especially when it comes to raising a family.
I remember when Taylor & I would get on a conversation about raising kids and one of us would say something that the other disagreed with and all of the sudden we would just shut down and stop talking about it. We would figure it out when it was time and right now we didn’t have to worry about it – that was our thought process.
We would always say, well why is your way right? Why should we raise them this way, when I think this is better?
We weren’t communicating or trying to see the others point of view, we were simply being stuck in our own ways. We were trying to change the other person. We weren’t thinking about what would be best for our family – and that was the problem.
It isn’t Taylor’s family anymore and it’s not my family anymore – it is our family. Now knowing and understanding that we can honestly communicate and talk about our goals and purpose of our family.
One thing that I loved from this lesson was that Kirk and Chelsea both talked about the importance in keeping God & faith at the center of your family. I really loved that. Taylor and I got to talking after the lesson and we kept saying how in our family we want it to be more than just going to Church – it really is so much more than that, it is a way of life.
And it was at that point where it really felt like we laid the foundation for our family.
- XO -
This weekend we found this little chapel and I just fell in love with it - And then I thought what better picture to post for #marriagemonday than one that represents a God who gave us two of the most precious gifts - marriage & children.
I'm Emilee. Twenty-something. Homebody. Believer in a simple + intentional life. Daughter of the King. Living in Austin with my hubs.
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