Hey there & happy Wednesday!!
I hope you guys had the BEST Labor Day. We sure did! We spent the day with our sweet friends and spent a couple of hours kayaking down the river, hitting up a local Austin brewery, checking out a GREAT happy hour at Austin’s Ale House ($2.50 beers y’all!!!) and finished our day watching the bats fly out from under the Congress Bridge, which by the way was so unbelievably cool and crazy and just one of the most unique and craziest things I’ve ever seen.
I wish I could say that I had pictures, but sadly I don’t because I was so nervous to bring my phone out on the kayak and even more nervous to lean it over the edge of the bridge to snag a picture of the bats. #notworthit. But, needless to say that Labor Day 2017 was a total hit.
And then this weekend Taylor & I celebrated ONE YEAR OF MARRIAGE! And since Monday was Labor Day, I figured that today I would share all about our one year anniversary, because I’ll just bet that it isn’t going to go like you would think. So let’s do this, shall we??
Plus we have something fun up our sleeves to share with you, so keep on reading 'til the end!
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People say that marriage is hard and it is. It totally is, i’m not going to deny that. It takes sacrifice, support, humility and so much more. This past year we have had our tough moments. We have fought, cried, been hurt and hurt each other, we have said things we regret and not treated the other like they deserve to be treated. But every time we come out of those moments with a more profound love and respect for each other.
Like I said when I first began this blog, I want to write about marriage and inspire others, and in order to genuinely do that I want to speak from the heart about our real experience with total honesty, because so often on social media and blogs you only read what people want you to see and believe about their life. And if I were to do that, I would tell you right now that we had an amazing week leading up to our one year anniversary. It was full of romance, love and endless surprises. We celebrated by going to this great little restaurant for a special dinner and that afterward we sipped our favorite wine and cuddled up for a movie on our comfy and pretty couch. And y’all, that would all be a lie.
Here is the real, total honest and by no means social media acceptable story of our one year anniversary. As we approached our anniversary Taylor & I had been fighting more than I think we ever have. Taylor was cranky and short tempered and I was cranky because I was frustrated by his behavior. We were both short tempered, and because of both of our attitudes we weren’t being respectful to one other, we weren’t supporting each other and we weren’t acting like a team. So about 2 or 3 days before our anniversary we had a BIG fight and looking back now, it was one that we desperately needed.
I won’t get into all of the details of our fight, because honestly that really isn’t what’s important. But in this case it really boiled down to communication. To keep a long story short, I wasn’t giving Taylor the support that he genuinely needed, and hearing him tell me that totally broke my heart, because in marriage or any relationship, that is one of our biggest and most substantial roles as a spouse. And then for me, I wasn’t feeling like I was being loved and supported in the way that I needed to be. Of course neither of us did either of these things intentionally, but the problem was that neither of us was communicating these feelings to each other. I had no idea that Taylor felt that way, and he had no idea that I felt my way and when that is the case, how do you fix it?
I hated our fight. It was horrible. Taylor hates seeing me cry because it genuinely hurts him. And I hate seeing him in pain. But as painful as that fight was, I am so thankful for it, because we came out of it learning more about each other and learning how to love each other better.
Life is busy and because we fall into routines, it is so incredibly easy to get lazy and forget how to really and truly love someone in the way that they need to be loved. Just like with everything in life, we are all different, so why would it make sense for us all to be loved in the same way? If you take anything away from this post, I hope that you take time to discover how it is that your spouse needs to be loved. And once you discover that, go out and love them BIG.
Too often we go about our days without thinking about our words or actions or how what we do effects another person. I know that it has only been about 3 days since our anniversary, but I have been trying so hard to be intentional about what I say and what I do so that Taylor always knows how loved and supported he is by me, because he is, always, forever, no matter what, 100% of the time. I am his wife. That is my job.
Contrary to what I thought going into our anniversary, it was so good and perfect in every way. It was different than what we had planned, but what fun is there in everything going as planned?
I’ll tell you this much. We drove to a great restaurant for dinner only to find a 1 hour wait, so we turned the car around and went to Shake Shack, which is so not fancy nor does it make the list for “best places to eat in Austin for your anniversary”. Then we went home to lay on our deflating air mattress (because we don’t have a couch yet) and watched two movies, while we drank the first wine that we ever had together and learned that our wine pallets have matured A LOT since our college days.
That was our anniversary and I wouldn’t change one thing about it. It was perfect and 100% us.
These days it is so easy to browse Facebook or Instagram and see people’s posts thinking, “gosh, their life is so perfect. I only wish mine were like that.” I’m so guilty of it. Sometimes I think I get caught up in others lives and dream of what I want my life to be and I forget about what is real, and so good in my life.
Our life is so good, we are seriously blessed and we have so much to be thankful for. No, I may not have the best camera to post pictures of our life on Instagram, I certainly can’t afford to shop at Nordstrom, we don’t eat at fancy restaurants and we don’t have the perfect bodies. But I love our life. We don't have it all, not even close, but we do have it pretty good and we are truly so fortunate and grateful for this blessed life.
And because it's our anniversary I'm throwing it back to some of my favorites.
Our first date | Our engagement | Our wedding
Whew! Okay! Now I have something fun that I’m excited to share with y’all. Kirk Cameron and his wife Chelsea created this six week marriage workshop and we signed up for it! The workshop is called The Heart of Family and it seriously looks so great - we're pumped to do it! We have not started it yet, but we plan to do so this week and then every Monday I am going to share with y’all our experience. #marriagemonday
You can go and check out the course here, but I’ll try and give you a quick low down on it. Essentially Kirk and Chelsea sit at their dining room table and talk about their marriage – specifically their struggles, triumphs and how they have come to have a lasting, loving & respected marriage after 25 years with both of them having careers in the entertainment industry AND raising SIX kids! They share what they have learned over the years and how biblically based principles have been the foundation to their marriage. So good, right?
I have posted a their ‘promo’ video below, so go take a look at it and then click here to go check out their website – or if you are already convinced and want to sign up, than you can do that here!
- XO -
I'm Emilee. 26. Homebody. Believer in a simple + intentional life. Daughter of the King. Living in Austin with my hubs.
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